Saturday, August 16, 2014
[12:07:36] Fawn Starflare: By now you know that after some opening remarks I sit back and just keep the conversation going. Today's topic provides lots for each of you to contribute.
[12:09:12] Fawn Starflare: My first notion of this talk came about a week ago. A woman came in in silks, black lace T&T belt, and hair gelled to look like there was a stiff breeze.
[12:09:42] Mermaid Stormcrow quietly walks into the discussion and sits down
[12:09:59] Fawn Starflare: She was a vision of loveliness and her manners matched, and just by looking at her you knew her Mistress loved her very much to guide or impose that presentation.
[12:12:13] Fawn Starflare: The thing is as we look around we have all dressed or been dressed not only to be pleasing to the eye but for other purposes as well.
[12:12:48] Brianne Erin: to please ones self or others
[12:13:13] Mermaid Stormcrow nods in agreement
[12:13:14] Fawn Starflare: An curious thing about this as that many of the decisions that go into creating this image or not made consciously.
[11:46:50] Linda Doune: Mistress....
[11:46:52] Linda Doune: and faery
[11:47:01] Fawn Starflare: It's a way of making your world feel ordered, safe, and secure.
[11:47:14] Linda Doune: it took a while to "come out" as my true spirit
[11:47:28] Linda Doune: coming out... to bdsm places... as a pure fairy
[11:47:32] Linda Doune: is....
[11:47:33] Linda Doune: well
[11:47:46] Linda Doune: this is the first time I've come here like this
[11:47:53] Linda Doune: but I can not hide my true desire
[11:48:04] Fawn Starflare: Congratulations, linda.
[11:48:12] A-Toy-Dragon (dragony.darkfury) smiles
[11:48:30] Linda Doune: in the faery world..... bdsm is so anathemic to the lifestyle.. it is totally forbidden
[11:48:38] Linda Doune: it is seen as not loving
[11:48:51] Linda Doune: but it is me
[11:48:59] Linda Doune: as well as seeing a girl on her knees.. is me
[11:49:43] Linda Doune: I am still a member here
[11:49:54] A-Toy-Dragon (dragony.darkfury) remembers reading "Bondage Fairies" comic and giggles
[11:50:22] Fawn Starflare: If you are comfortable with it, lets make this part of the description. Your feelings are so much like my own that the dissonant couplet is different.
[11:50:27] Linda Doune: at least when I am over there
[11:50:40] Linda Doune: I need to hide my desire to take my wife and make her kneel
[11:50:51] Linda Doune: but I do that when I am not physically .. ehehe.. here
[11:51:38] Linda Doune: I was dominant outwardly for ages
[11:51:47] Linda Doune: years even... you have known me for years, Fawn
[11:52:02] Linda Doune: inside me was.. this...
[11:52:05] Linda Doune: and it won out
[11:52:22] Fawn Starflare: I think it's great.
[11:53:05] Fawn Starflare: Personally I have no issue with dominant faeries, however I understand the conflict within your community.
[11:53:21] Linda Doune: my community... dissolved on me
[11:53:32] Fawn Starflare: It's nice to see you -- OUT -- happy and comfortable with yourself.
[11:53:41] Linda Doune: that gave me the opportunity to explore and expound ... with my gentler inside
[11:53:55] Linda Doune: clubs I have been with for years... dissolved.. and shocked me
[11:55:25] Linda Doune: Bdsm has been part of my life here since I came on 5 yrs ago
[11:55:37] Linda Doune: so... you can say this is a huge shift ㋡
[12:13:22] Fawn Starflare: ok ladies. its time to get this discussion going.
[12:17:21] Fawn Starflare: so the topic of discussion today is cognitive dissonance.