Wednesday Discussion 5/29/2014

Wednesday Discussion 12:00 Noon led by Miss Fawn
"What to do when you know you have done something wrong and have no idea why your Mistress is so angry with you and what you need to do."

[12:07]  Fawn Starflare: Today's topic, well you have only to look at my toy to see what inspired it.
[12:07]  Fawn Starflare: I am sure the lash marks will heal soon.
[12:07]  A-Toy-Dragon (dragony.darkfury) caresses the welts
[12:07]  Helena Sitri (plueschie): *giggles* if it gets more full here we need more pillows on the floor
[12:08]  Fawn Starflare: It's no secret that though I only Domme now, I am and always have been a switch.
[12:08]  Fawn Starflare: I have been on both sides of this dilemma.
[12:08]  Fawn Starflare: I will illustrate the situation.
[12:08]  Fawn Starflare: Yesterday when I logged in toy was online but AFK.
[12:09]  Fawn Starflare: When she logged in, she was both blind and gagged, and that is something she had to have noticed.
[12:09]  Fawn Starflare: Yes, toy?
[12:10]  Fawn Starflare: I waited for her to return. She is a very good girl most of the time, and she greeted me with a foot kiss and her pledge of submission to me.
[12:10]  Fawn Starflare: However I had not heard something I was expecting and that she would have said in other circumstance when bindings were added or removed :
[12:10]  Fawn Starflare: "thank you"
[12:11]  Fawn Starflare: So I asked, "what have you forgotten to say?"
[12:11]  Fawn Starflare: Now if she had said 'thank you' or 'I don't know', things would have ended there.

Discussion Wed Noon 5/14/2014

Chats with Miss Fawn
Wednesday, 14  May 2014, noon SLT

Augmented Reality, Totally Independent world, or something in between or other. What's your view of SL and how does it affect the way you do BDSM in SL? Conversely, what you want to do or get out of BDSM in SL probably affects your perception of SL. Regardless, we often do things in SL we couldn't do in RL due to issues of physical safety and other concerns. Though physical safety can be ignored, a bad scene or relationship can do emotional or spiritual harm in a variety of ways. How does one inoculate herself against harm before entering into a scene or relationship?

[12:09]  Fawn Starflare: The topic today was suggested by an 8 year old block entry that tessa pointed out to me.
[12:10]  Fawn Starflare: And while those issues of what should SL have long since been settles, the title suggests something that I think about all the time with connection to the BDSM lifestyle in SL.
[12:11]  Mermaid Stormcrow waits for Miss Fawn to continue.
[12:12]  Fawn Starflare: Now I want to make a disclaimer before I jump right in. The there are at least two different issues which one could spend a lot of time. There are deep philosophical considerations. However they are tangential to what I have in mind and I will cut off discussion that will lead in to philosophical pondering.
[12:12]  Fawn Starflare: I was trying to think how to word that.
[12:13]  Fawn Starflare: SL is for us a wonderful virtual world.
[12:14]  Fawn Starflare: Now this can and does mean many things. Some see SL as a world apart, cut off from the "First World".
[12:14]  Fawn Starflare: The laws of nature need not apply, nor social conventions, nor any of the things upon which our first life is built.
[12:15]  Fawn Starflare: Now this has an impact to BDSM.

Discussion Wed noon 4-30-2014 Grooming subs, definition of slave etc

4-30-2014

Fawn Starflare:
You know, that description is a lot like creating a bonsai. Pruning, staking, tying off, directing it's growth. The result is not a doormat, but a slave who evolves to be exactly what I desire, a living individual whose every desire, hope, and action is in service to me and anticipation of my needs, but still an individual with her own mind, personality, and soul.

[12:12]  Fawn Starflare: As usual I will start with some remarks and then open the topic for general discussion.
[12:14]  Mermaid Stormcrow listens
[12:14]  Fawn Starflare: The topic of today's discussion was sparked by a beautiful quote sent to me sunday evening, by our own elisandra.
[12:15]  Fawn Starflare: I shares it with toy and others and a short discussion ensued.
[12:15]  A-Toy-Dragon (dragony.darkfury) nods
[12:15]  Fawn Starflare: You can see that on the placard to my left in front of the fireplace.
[12:16]  Fawn Starflare: The text in the placard is on a notecard. Just touch the placard for a copy of the card.
[12:16]  Fawn Starflare: I will give you all a few minutes to read the the card.

[12:16]  Bonsai Analogy owned by Fawn Starflare. gave you 'Bonsai analogy of BDSM'