Our very own Tori graduates from SL Coast Guard Academy

Tori Graduation from SL Coast Guard Academy

[12:35]  bruckner (bruckner.dreddmor): SR Tori Petlyakov please join us on the deck
[12:35]  bruckner (bruckner.dreddmor): welcome to the deck
[12:35]  Tori Petlyakov: SEMPER PARATUS
[12:35]  bruckner (bruckner.dreddmor): SEMPER PARATUS

Expectations - Miss Fawn 11-7-2014

[12:13:49] Fawn Starflare: When I first though of this pair of discussions a few weeks back, the inspiration was the many many different expectations we have of each other.
[12:14:37] Fawn Starflare: While I would be hard pressed to come up with definitions for top and bottom, or Domme and sub, those who have hung around the lifestyle long enough sense there is a difference.
[12:15:45] Fawn Starflare: Not all so called dom/me roles are about dominance. At least not in some traditional sense as an owner of slaves in ancient Rome or even in some parts of the modern Arab world or the antebellum American South.
[12:16:56] Fawn Starflare: And the same things goes for those we generically call subs. But some like to be kidnapped, others to be raped, and others pain. And none of those are necessarily submissive.
[12:17:46] Fawn Starflare: And then there are the truly submissive roles, servants, maids, sex toy, dolls, and all the rest. And brats, and those that love to be subdued before submitting.
[12:18:22] A-Toy-Dragon (dragony.darkfury) smiles
[12:18:36] Fawn Starflare: So let's go around the room. Let's see what different dommes expect from subs, three or four attributes, and what subs expect of themselves, what they want to give and what they want in return.

Types of Kneels - Mouse 11-1-2014

[12:11]  Mouse Love Lykin (minnigirl): i offered to teach brit the meanings behind the kneels Miss Carley
[12:11]  Carley Noonan pulls Britt close and kisses Britt
[12:11]  Carley Noonan: Oh mouse thank you
[12:11]  Carley Noonan: we are trying to get her edumacated
[12:12]  Mouse Love Lykin (minnigirl): may i take the center for a moment please
[12:12]   ღ Ţєşşa Romanov ღ (tessaromanov): fine by me mousey-love
[12:12]  Mermaid Stormcrow: please do, mouse.
[12:13]  Carley Noonan: of course mouse
[12:13]  Mouse Love Lykin (minnigirl): this little workshop is called "On your knees"
[12:13]   ღ Ţєşşa Romanov ღ (tessaromanov): oo

What makes a D/s relationship work? Miss Tenshi 10-17-2014

[15:10] Tenshi Love: Yesterday I spoke a bit about power exchange. Today, I'll speak about the topic that interests me the most
[15:10] Tenshi Love: Namely: what makes a D/s relationship work?
[15:11] Feralangel Tolsen raises her hand
[15:12] Tenshi Love: I'll open the floor for initial ideas, then I'll share what I think.
[15:13] Feralangel Tolsen: Ok. Well.. I think the ingredients are different for everyone. I think in general compatibility is hugs. That means compatibility of kinks and also style. What I mean by smiles is for instance, some subs need more affection. Like me.
[15:13] Akala Tanara: Dedication, trust and communication I would say make it work.
[15:14] Feralangel Tolsen: honest communication even when it is not easy to say or discuss.. especially then
[15:14] Kite Homewood: ...dedication, too.
[15:15] Carley Noonan: patience
[15:15] Carley Noonan: love
[15:15] Tenshi Love:  You all have begun to scratch the surface here. This topic is plenty more profound than it seems.
[15:15] Carley Noonan: and respect
[15:15]  ღ Ţєşşa Romanov ღ: i go with respect too
[15:16] Feralangel Tolsen: ya. I would say respect for each party as a human being that is not predicated on their role.

TPE - Miss Tenshi 10-16-2014

[18:18]  Tenshi Love (eiko.zeffirelli): there is transfer of power from the top to the bottom. Such a transfer can happen in three ways.
[18:19]  Tenshi Love (eiko.zeffirelli): Power over is the first type of power transfer: The will of the dominant is imposed on the submissive.
[18:20]  Tenshi Love (eiko.zeffirelli): It's classic, but i's not good on the long run, because there is no space for the submissive to express herself.
[18:21]  Tenshi Love (eiko.zeffirelli): Power under is the second type of power exchange: everything is negotiated from the submissive

Traits of a domme with Miss Fawn 10-23-2014

Miss Fawn discussion - traits of a domme
[13:00]  Fawn Starflare: What I'd like to do is have each of you think about dommes and what a Domme is to you. Then pick the three most important attributes, skills, attitudes, presentations, etc. Before we start to respond to each other I would like you all to to tell us your three things. After that we can discuss similarities and differences in the lists. I wonder if Dommes, subs, and switches all define a Domme the same way.
[13:00]  Caprice (becky.koolhoven) nods at Miss Fawn
[13:01]  Fawn Starflare: It's not about how you met or how long a trial period.
[13:01]  Fawn Starflare: It's about both domme and sub being willing to truly know the other and to commit to finding a middle road.
[13:02]  Fawn Starflare: Even in TPE, there is give and take.
[13:02]  Fawn Starflare: So lets try this go around the room and each woman say what Domme means to her.

TPE - Collaring Discussion 10-23-2014

TPE - Collaring
[12:16] Mermaid Stormcrow: so let's start the discussion
[12:16] Mermaid Stormcrow: This is Fawn's topic
[12:16] Mermaid Stormcrow: For the next two weeks we will be discussing dominant and submissive roles.. The goal is to explore our expectations of ourselves and our partners as we fulfill these roles. There is no one comprehensive set of skills and behaviors that define either role. As people describe their desires and needs we will see that roles are fluid and evolve to satisfy both partners. Even for TPE the Domme/sub relationship is much more a collaboration that it might seem.
[12:17] Mermaid Stormcrow: This week is focusing on Dommes. Next week will be subs.
[12:17] Mermaid Stormcrow: To the dommes in the room, when you read this topic, what comes to mind?
[12:19] Carla (cyberspy): Which part, the TPE?
[12:19] Mermaid Stormcrow: When I read this topic, I think of how much I've learned since starting as a domme; not that long ago.
[12:20] Mermaid Stormcrow: What does TPE mean Carla?

Mermaid Stormcrow & Gwendolyn Sweetwater Are Wed Oct. 4, 2014

[17:02]  Mermaid Stormcrow: ok, this is it.
[17:03]  Mermaid Stormcrow shakes out my dress
[17:03]  Lea Pet (leatherme): you look absolutely heavenly Mer
[17:03]  Mermaid Stormcrow blushes and laughs at the comments
[17:04]  Mermaid Stormcrow stands under the arch and looks at her friends and family

Cellar Staff Meeting Oct 4, 2014

Summary - topics:
1) the value of the Cellar
2) the stability of sims for renting
3) Roles and powers
4) Lag
[11:02]  San Mauvaise: I do not have a particular agenda for today, but would firstly like to hear other's opinions of what they think about the state of the Cellar and maybe its future
[11:03]  San Mauvaise: anyone want to start?

Dressing your subbie 14 Aug 2014

[12:06:28] Fawn Starflare: Thank you all for showing your support of our wonderful group and club by coming down.
[12:07:36] Fawn Starflare: By now you know that after some opening remarks I sit back and just keep the conversation going. Today's topic provides lots for each of you to contribute.
[12:09:12] Fawn Starflare: My first notion of this talk came about a week ago. A woman came in in silks, black lace T&T belt, and hair gelled to look like there was a stiff breeze.
[12:09:42] Mermaid Stormcrow quietly walks into the discussion and sits down
[12:09:59] Fawn Starflare: She was a vision of loveliness and her manners matched, and just by looking at her you knew her Mistress loved her very much to guide or impose that presentation.
[12:12:13] Fawn Starflare:  The thing is as we look around we have all dressed or been dressed not only to be pleasing to the eye but for other purposes as well.
[12:12:48] Brianne Erin: to please ones self or others
[12:13:13] Mermaid Stormcrow nods in agreement
[12:13:14] Fawn Starflare: An curious thing about this as that many of the decisions that go into creating this image or not made consciously.

Cognitive Dissonance in BDSM 07 August 2014

[11:46:50] Linda Doune: Mistress....
[11:46:52] Linda Doune: and faery
[11:47:01] Fawn Starflare: It's a way of making your world feel ordered, safe, and secure.
[11:47:14] Linda Doune: it took a while to "come out" as my true spirit
[11:47:28] Linda Doune: coming out... to bdsm places... as a pure fairy
[11:47:32] Linda Doune: is....
[11:47:33] Linda Doune: well
[11:47:46] Linda Doune: this is the first time I've come here like this
[11:47:53] Linda Doune: but I can not hide my true desire
[11:48:04] Fawn Starflare: Congratulations, linda.
[11:48:12] A-Toy-Dragon (dragony.darkfury) smiles
[11:48:30] Linda Doune: in the faery world..... bdsm is so anathemic to the lifestyle.. it is totally forbidden
[11:48:38] Linda Doune: it is seen as not loving
[11:48:51] Linda Doune: but it is me
[11:48:59] Linda Doune: as well as seeing a girl on her knees.. is me
[11:49:43] Linda Doune: I am still a member here
[11:49:54] A-Toy-Dragon (dragony.darkfury) remembers reading "Bondage Fairies" comic and giggles
[11:50:22] Fawn Starflare: If you are comfortable with it, lets make this part of the description. Your feelings are so much like my own that the dissonant couplet is different.
[11:50:27] Linda Doune: at least when I am over there
[11:50:40] Linda Doune: I need to hide my desire to take my wife and make her kneel
[11:50:51] Linda Doune: but I do that when I am not physically .. ehehe.. here
[11:51:38] Linda Doune: I was dominant outwardly for ages
[11:51:47] Linda Doune: years even... you have known me for years, Fawn
[11:52:02] Linda Doune: inside me was.. this...
[11:52:05] Linda Doune: and it won out
[11:52:22] Fawn Starflare: I think it's great.
[11:53:05] Fawn Starflare: Personally I have no issue with dominant faeries, however I understand the conflict within your community.
[11:53:21] Linda Doune: my community... dissolved on me
[11:53:32] Fawn Starflare: It's nice to see you -- OUT -- happy and comfortable with yourself.
[11:53:41] Linda Doune: that gave me the opportunity to explore and expound ... with my gentler inside
[11:53:55] Linda Doune: clubs I have been with for years... dissolved.. and shocked me
[11:55:25] Linda Doune: Bdsm has been part of my life here since I came on 5 yrs ago
[11:55:37] Linda Doune: so... you can say this is a huge shift ㋡
...
...
[12:13:22] Fawn Starflare: ok ladies. its time to get this discussion going.
[12:17:21] Fawn Starflare: so the topic of discussion today is cognitive dissonance.

Inaugurals

of the New Lower Dungeon
of the Cellar Sunday Dances with DJLexi 3-5pm

dressing a sub's head...

[12:15:51] Fawn Starflare: I've been thinking a lot about gags and sensory deprivation, removal of identity and a bunch or related issues that come along with dressing a sub's head.
[12:16:17] Fawn Starflare: Blind folds, hoods, harnesses, gags, blinkers, and the like.
[12:17:41] Fawn Starflare: For me this all starts with an oral fixation. As a sub it was my desire to always have something in my mouth. A gag of any king, part of my Mistress, part of someone designated by my Mistress.

Miss San & Ziggy

Ziggy returneth!!
And i was very excited, so Miss San let me post some pictures.
If any of you have great big events like prodigal daughters or weddings, please send me your pictures to post and any pertinent poop :)

The Vagina Monologues with Miss Fawn July 3

[12:09]  Fawn Starflare takes a sip of water from the table beside her, then taps a spoon on it gently to get people's attention
[12:10]  Fawn Starflare: Tuesday night I finally gave myself the joy of watching “The Vagina Monologues,” Written and performed by Eve Ensler. In preparation for our discussion I looked her up in the Wikipedia. She's an interesting woman and hope at least some of you will look her up after our discussion. If you have about 90 minutes and want an amazing experience, watch “The Vagina Monologues.” Amazon has recently acquired distribution rights to a lot of HBO shows, many of them, including the “Monologues,” of is available “free” to Amazon Prime members, all others pay cash.

Sensual Domming: the SL/RL Connection - Miss Ash 06222014

[2014/06/22 11:10]  Ash (Ash Yheng): So basically, although this discussion started off in my mind purely about Sensual Domming as a method ...
[2014/06/22 11:10]  Ash (Ash Yheng): ... it quickly turned into one that was about how connected subs are between RL and SL.
[2014/06/22 11:10]  Ash (Ash Yheng): And this is a tricky area. Some people get uncomfortable about that subject, because they think of it as being "too real", or get worried about people stalking them ...
[2014/06/22 11:11]  Molly Domenici: Part of SL is having that separation from RL
[2014/06/22 11:11]  Ash (Ash Yheng): ... but it doesn't have to be that way. To me there is always going to be -some- sort of carry over into the RL of the sub if we're talking about a real D/s experience, at least in terms of mood.
[2014/06/22 11:11]  Ash (Ash Yheng) nods at molly.
[2014/06/22 11:11]  Ash (Ash Yheng): Well, people experience it all very differently.

"Mother, may I?" Miss Fawn discussion 06192014

[12:10:04] Fawn Starflare: It was Carla who indirectly suggested this topic about 8 days ago.
[12:10:23] Carla (cyberspy): haha, that is an understatement.
[12:11:04] Fawn Starflare: Carla what complaining about the ways and timings of people wanting to use her girls and she said, "Have you discussed that yet."
[12:11:22] Fawn Starflare: So here we are
[12:11:32] Sugar Baby (bridgette.huntress): oh ok
[12:12:53] Fawn Starflare: Also Carla and had a minor upset of her girl adonna participating in the forniphilia demonstration. So issues of etiquette were definitely in the air.
[12:13:20] Fawn Starflare: And Lexi's blog post that week also addresses similar ISSUES.
[12:14:56] Fawn Starflare: As I see it there are very few universal rules of etiquette in the BDSM world. A lot of behaviors that might be unacceptable in everyday life are often acceptable here.
[12:15:37] Fawn Starflare: Even so, dominants are very possessive of their subs, even when the sub is allowed to roam about to play.

Sub-space & Sub drop - Miss Ash Yheng June 15, 2014

[11:05]  Ash (ash.yheng): Looking around the room I suspect that most of you are at least somewhat versed in the subject ...
[11:06]  Toni Westland: sorry I did not pick up on the subject.
[11:06]  Ash (ash.yheng): ... but I'd like to go over some basics, as well as some SL-specific comments on the subject of "subspace and subdrop" for the benefit of people that are new to the scene, or used to thinking in RL context.
[11:07]  Mouse Love Lykin (minnigirl): oh, an interesting subject Miss Ash
[11:07]   ღ Ţєşşa Romanov ღ (tessaromanov): truly
[11:07]  Mermaid Stormcrow nods and listens

Dolls - a kink part deux

Dolls -

[09:21:12] Fawn Starflare: Well I see a few Dolls here. Different Varieties. Melody, toy, born, kelly.
[09:21:35] A-Toy-Dragon (dragony.darkfury) smiles
[09:21:36] Melody Cross (melody.runo) nods
[09:22:10] Fawn Starflare: Hello para.
[09:22:22] Mermaid Stormcrow: please come can join us for the discussion
[09:22:23] Para (mstrspara.moraga): Smiles and waves Hello all :)
[09:22:34] MissMarcy Yachvili (mismarcy) is online.
[09:23:01] RF Reverse Stiletto (r lower leg) whispers: A nice comfy heel is placed on Jessicca's shoes, capping the mean spike and rendering it harmless.
[09:23:14] A-Toy-Dragon (dragony.darkfury) smiles
[09:23:35] Mermaid Stormcrow quietly waves to Miana and jessicca as the discussion starts.
[09:23:54] Fawn Starflare watches maina drag in a securely bound, gagged, and blinded girl.
[09:24:13] Fawn Starflare: Very nice, Miana, and the coloring of the buttocks is perfect.
[09:24:21] (no name) Mstrspara Moraga has turned Mstrspara's key.
[09:24:56] Fawn Starflare: One more Doll added to the collection.
[09:25:02] Miana Siabonne: Hiya Everyone :)
[09:25:27] Fawn Starflare: I think we can see one of the elements of being a doll is the paradoxical freedom that comes with restraint.

Dolls, a kink

[12:12:18] Fawn Starflare: Oh Silver, we hold a number of discussions each week to keep that place warm and cozy. I lead a discussion , well as of this week, twice a week.
[12:12:29] Fawn Starflare: And today as I said it Dommes and Dolls.
[12:12:52] Fawn Starflare: It's hard to say exactly where and hows the doll fetish came to be.
[12:13:36] Fawn Starflare: My perception of this is that it began with inflatable sex dolls available by mail order or at your local XXX book shop.