Fun at the Cellar

Brewing Rhonda Bourbon May 2016

Part II

Ms Mewls joins the Staff

Dances 2015-2016

Spring Fling May 2016

Beach Party 2015 - those bikinis fall off easily

Valentines 80s Style - Feb 2015

Fantasy dance - May 2015

Pictures from recent events... Winter 2015, Spring 2016

Family ala becky Highness 7 Oct 2015

[11:58] Jenna (noamuthquortek): Safe to assume it's open to the public?
[11:59] sadiziah: twirls my hair round my finger
[11:59] Becky S. Rexie (becky.koolhoven): oh yes
[11:59] Becky S. Rexie (becky.koolhoven): if you think they can handle it
[12:00] Jenna (noamuthquortek): I know how to safeword if it's too much for me.l
[12:02] Becky S. Rexie (becky.koolhoven): welcome everyone to the 124th discussion entitled, Becky
[12:02] Becky S. Rexie (becky.koolhoven): nice to have you here in so big numbers
[12:04] Becky S. Rexie (becky.koolhoven): first topic is panties and how some love to fill them.... nah! seriously....
[12:04] Becky S. Rexie (becky.koolhoven): the topic today will be, family, but more how to make it grow

Discipline vs Punishment 4 Oct 2015 Miss Fawn discussion

[2015/10/03 12:14]  Fawn Starflare: Greetings, and thank you for coming.

[2015/10/03 12:29]  Fawn Starflare: I think, as it is on my mind, we will talk about discipline and punishment.
[2015/10/03 12:29]  Fawn Starflare: some of you saw the bundle of stinging nettle I was holding when you came.
[2015/10/03 12:31]  Fawn Starflare: However, first, I made some changes to my profile last night.
[2015/10/03 12:34]  Fawn Starflare settles herself in the chair.
[2015/10/03 12:35]  Fawn Starflare: are we all ready to proceed.
[2015/10/03 12:35]  Ana Topaz (anathae.bogart): yes Miss
[2015/10/03 12:35]  Ekaterina Urstein (arsanerit): nods
[2015/10/03 12:35]  gwen (sapphicfancy): yes Miss
[2015/10/03 12:37]  Fawn Starflare: The point I am making here is the difference between training and play.

Fawn's family discussion 10/10/2015

[2015/10/10 12:09]  Fawn Starflare: Ok, ladies and girls, it is definitely nice to see you all here.  I want these to be group chats, but everyone is so quiet at the beginning I tend to lecture.  The way to stop it is to ask questions, or make a statement.  This will work very well as I will be speaking about why I believe I have a successful family. So it's my experience and it WILL differ from yours.
[2015/10/10 12:11]  Fawn Starflare: One thing my girls and I have discussed over the week is how things look different from inside and outside the family.  We have what appears to be very strict ownership, control, and discipline.  However, it functions because we each give to the others what they desire.  My girls do not want control so I make choices for them. They want to be kept on leash, and there is nothing I love more.  Walking around with my three or four girls on leash is a trip.  And If I take them to a restaurant and keep them bound and hand feed them in public, they love it as much as I do.  But it works because they turn over control and generally do not try to wrest it back.  If they do, well there will be a struggle of will.  I will come out on top and there will be "punishments" but we've all had fun.  In a way, from the inside, it does not really look so much like BDSM or as the middle two letters indicate, D/s.

Objectification - Miss Fawn discussion 26 Sept 2015

[2015/09/26 11:57]  gwen: here comes Miss Fawn !  Hello Miss
[2015/09/26 11:57]  gwen smiles warmly
[2015/09/26 11:57]  Ruby: good evening Ms Starflare
[2015/09/26 12:05]  Fawn Starflare: Yes, I sort of had a topic in mind last night, so I agreed to do the discussion.
[2015/09/26 12:05]  Fawn Starflare: And finally, ruby, It is nice to meet you as well. Are you new to the Cellar?
[2015/09/26 12:06]  Ruby: i have been coming sporadically, Miss Fawn. Mouse recommended that i should come.
[2015/09/26 12:07]  Fawn Starflare: Oh nice! mousie is a good friend and sub.
[2015/09/26 12:07]  Fawn Starflare: San is very lucky to own her
[2015/09/26 12:08]  Fawn Starflare: Oh, and here, is ada. One of Miss Denise's girls, though often on my leash holder.
[2015/09/26 12:09]  Fawn Starflare: Sextoy, the one with only mouth, pussy, ass, and tits exposed is the toy I mentioned in my announcement.
[2015/09/26 12:09]  Fawn Starflare: sextoy, as you need to leave almost immediately, would you explain what objectification has come to mean to you.  When I found you in this room you were not yet a sextoy.
2015/09/26 12:11]  A-Toy sextoy: It is something that goes way back. It was a long time before 'it' became Goddess' property put into this kind of outfit.  But Goddess has refined it and enhanced it's role.

The D/s Family- Discussion 9/19/15

[2015/09/19 11:55]  Fawn Starflare: ¸„.-·~¹°”ˆ˜¨ I'll bet you'd love to be dominated, wouldn't you? ¨˜ˆ”°¹~·-.„¸
[2015/09/19 12:05]  Fawn Starflare: Everyone, I am almost ready to start
[2015/09/19 12:05]  Fawn Starflare: I have just been having RL and SL nerve problems.
[2015/09/19 12:05]  Fawn Starflare: I think I am calmed down.
[2015/09/19 12:06]  Fawn Starflare: As usual my toys have absorb the brunt of my upset, enabling me to move forward.
[2015/09/19 12:07]  Fawn Starflare: I hate being like that, but we have achieve a level of coherence as a family, that everyone knows their roles and pulls their weight.

New Submissive Training week 3

Week 3: Collars, PE and TPE

1) What is PE and TPE? When do they apply?
2) Protective Collar
3) Training/trial/Consideration Collar
4) Full Collar
            a) What is the message?
            b) What are the responsibilities?
            c) Ownership and knowing your place

New Submissive Training week 2

[17:04]   ღ Ţєşşa Romanov ღ (tessaromanov): this is the agenda: Week 2: Safety and relationship building
 1) Safety in communication (what not to share)
 2) Red flags; Are they who they say they are?
 3) SSC, RACK and Safe words
 4) Relationship building
    a) Progress using Communication and Time
    b) Building a Foundation of Trust and Honor
    c) Behaviors of an adult in an adult relationship

New Submissive Training Week 1

(photo from a 2014 discussion)



Submissive Training June 2015

Week 1: Introduction
    1)  Welcome to Cellar, Sim Rules, Purpose of submissive class
    2)  Self Exploration
            a) Core values and alignment
            b) Personal likes/dislikes/fears/limits
            c) Communication with self and others
    3)  What is a submissive/slave heart? What is a submissive/slave?
            a) Common misconceptions
            b) Truth of service NOT stereotype
    4) The other
            a) Safety
            b) Getting to know You

Layle - Rhonda Wedding Mar-21-2015

[16:06]   ღ Ţєşşa Romanov ღ (tessaromanov): shhhhhhh, the ceremony is ready to start, hide all alcohol and stop all betting
[16:07]  Layle Lebed: Thank you Tessa
[16:07]   ღ Ţєşşa Romanov ღ (tessaromanov): ***** APPPPPPPLLLLAAAUUUSSSSEEEEEEE***********

Submissive Bill of Rights

[12:03:38] Fawn Starflare: Welcome all. I am going to start the transcript right now.
[12:03:41] Anne Marques (ladyanamarques): I require a shrubbery first :p
[12:03:58] Fawn Starflare: Welcome to my series of group chats.
[12:04:13] Yoko Nagai Love (yokonagai): that sounds fun
[12:04:40] Fawn Starflare: They have been erratic because of heath issues. But my support network of care givers is getting stronger and so am I.
[12:04:53] Yoko Nagai Love (yokonagai): I hope you get well soon
[12:05:07] Fawn Starflare: So I am praying I can resume a regular weekly or bi-weekly series of chats once again.
[12:05:54] Yoko Nagai Love (yokonagai): good luck to you
[12:05:54] Fawn Starflare: Today I have some thoughts generated from Lexi's blog post on submissive's rights.

Topping from the Bottom - Miss Fawn Jan 15, 2015

Today's topic are some of the subtle ways subs top from the bottom that are often not recognized as such. The Domme must be alert and subs clue into them selves. These things are not universally bad, but when understood can be used to make things more interesting and fun.

[12:01:17]  AdaVenomiss: welcome Miss Fawn, Toy!
[12:01:18]  Ellen Cordeaux: Ladies. *smiles and waves at all
[12:01:36]  Sara (lilgirlsara.audeburgh): Hello Miss Ellen
[12:02:43]  Ellen Cordeaux: Happy New year to you all (kind of late)
[12:03:42]  Fawn Starflare: Yes, well happy year to all of you, and it's wonderful to see so many of you here.
[12:05:51]  Nora Ivylord: I'm here. Maybe I'll get some tips for topping from the bottom. :)
[12:06:39]  Fawn Starflare flicks an imaginary whip at nora.

Our very own Tori graduates from SL Coast Guard Academy

Tori Graduation from SL Coast Guard Academy

[12:35]  bruckner (bruckner.dreddmor): SR Tori Petlyakov please join us on the deck
[12:35]  bruckner (bruckner.dreddmor): welcome to the deck
[12:35]  Tori Petlyakov: SEMPER PARATUS
[12:35]  bruckner (bruckner.dreddmor): SEMPER PARATUS

Expectations - Miss Fawn 11-7-2014

[12:13:49] Fawn Starflare: When I first though of this pair of discussions a few weeks back, the inspiration was the many many different expectations we have of each other.
[12:14:37] Fawn Starflare: While I would be hard pressed to come up with definitions for top and bottom, or Domme and sub, those who have hung around the lifestyle long enough sense there is a difference.
[12:15:45] Fawn Starflare: Not all so called dom/me roles are about dominance. At least not in some traditional sense as an owner of slaves in ancient Rome or even in some parts of the modern Arab world or the antebellum American South.
[12:16:56] Fawn Starflare: And the same things goes for those we generically call subs. But some like to be kidnapped, others to be raped, and others pain. And none of those are necessarily submissive.
[12:17:46] Fawn Starflare: And then there are the truly submissive roles, servants, maids, sex toy, dolls, and all the rest. And brats, and those that love to be subdued before submitting.
[12:18:22] A-Toy-Dragon (dragony.darkfury) smiles
[12:18:36] Fawn Starflare: So let's go around the room. Let's see what different dommes expect from subs, three or four attributes, and what subs expect of themselves, what they want to give and what they want in return.

Types of Kneels - Mouse 11-1-2014

[12:11]  Mouse Love Lykin (minnigirl): i offered to teach brit the meanings behind the kneels Miss Carley
[12:11]  Carley Noonan pulls Britt close and kisses Britt
[12:11]  Carley Noonan: Oh mouse thank you
[12:11]  Carley Noonan: we are trying to get her edumacated
[12:12]  Mouse Love Lykin (minnigirl): may i take the center for a moment please
[12:12]   ღ Ţєşşa Romanov ღ (tessaromanov): fine by me mousey-love
[12:12]  Mermaid Stormcrow: please do, mouse.
[12:13]  Carley Noonan: of course mouse
[12:13]  Mouse Love Lykin (minnigirl): this little workshop is called "On your knees"
[12:13]   ღ Ţєşşa Romanov ღ (tessaromanov): oo

What makes a D/s relationship work? Miss Tenshi 10-17-2014

[15:10] Tenshi Love: Yesterday I spoke a bit about power exchange. Today, I'll speak about the topic that interests me the most
[15:10] Tenshi Love: Namely: what makes a D/s relationship work?
[15:11] Feralangel Tolsen raises her hand
[15:12] Tenshi Love: I'll open the floor for initial ideas, then I'll share what I think.
[15:13] Feralangel Tolsen: Ok. Well.. I think the ingredients are different for everyone. I think in general compatibility is hugs. That means compatibility of kinks and also style. What I mean by smiles is for instance, some subs need more affection. Like me.
[15:13] Akala Tanara: Dedication, trust and communication I would say make it work.
[15:14] Feralangel Tolsen: honest communication even when it is not easy to say or discuss.. especially then
[15:14] Kite Homewood: ...dedication, too.
[15:15] Carley Noonan: patience
[15:15] Carley Noonan: love
[15:15] Tenshi Love:  You all have begun to scratch the surface here. This topic is plenty more profound than it seems.
[15:15] Carley Noonan: and respect
[15:15]  ღ Ţєşşa Romanov ღ: i go with respect too
[15:16] Feralangel Tolsen: ya. I would say respect for each party as a human being that is not predicated on their role.

TPE - Miss Tenshi 10-16-2014

[18:18]  Tenshi Love (eiko.zeffirelli): there is transfer of power from the top to the bottom. Such a transfer can happen in three ways.
[18:19]  Tenshi Love (eiko.zeffirelli): Power over is the first type of power transfer: The will of the dominant is imposed on the submissive.
[18:20]  Tenshi Love (eiko.zeffirelli): It's classic, but i's not good on the long run, because there is no space for the submissive to express herself.
[18:21]  Tenshi Love (eiko.zeffirelli): Power under is the second type of power exchange: everything is negotiated from the submissive

Traits of a domme with Miss Fawn 10-23-2014

Miss Fawn discussion - traits of a domme
[13:00]  Fawn Starflare: What I'd like to do is have each of you think about dommes and what a Domme is to you. Then pick the three most important attributes, skills, attitudes, presentations, etc. Before we start to respond to each other I would like you all to to tell us your three things. After that we can discuss similarities and differences in the lists. I wonder if Dommes, subs, and switches all define a Domme the same way.
[13:00]  Caprice (becky.koolhoven) nods at Miss Fawn
[13:01]  Fawn Starflare: It's not about how you met or how long a trial period.
[13:01]  Fawn Starflare: It's about both domme and sub being willing to truly know the other and to commit to finding a middle road.
[13:02]  Fawn Starflare: Even in TPE, there is give and take.
[13:02]  Fawn Starflare: So lets try this go around the room and each woman say what Domme means to her.